Finding Confidence Through Trusting God
What does it really mean to have a confident heart? Is this something that can be shown through someone’s actions? As I spent time preparing for this blog post, the title “confident heart” continued to come back to me. I believe a confident heart means that regardless of what your life may look or feel like, you are sure that it will all somehow come together. I want you to take some time to reflect on what you’ve been thinking about. Have you been worrying about your next step in life? Do you often feel anxious when making a decision? I can recall when I lived a life filled with anxious thoughts that caused me to be stressed out about everything. Such as, my “love life’ and whether or not I would experience true love. Ladies, the key to having a confident heart is trusting that whatever your concerned about is going to work out for your good (See Romans 8:28). In the past, my mind was filled with thoughts of worry. I often thought about the following: “Will I ever be married? Why don’t they accept me? Why am I so hard on myself? Or Why is it always so hard for me to make a decision?” I believe each of these thoughts embodies stress and anxiety that I often experienced. I want you to know that whatever concerns you, concerns God. What would happen if you shifted your focus away from anxious thoughts?
No More Feeling Anxious
I finally decided to set aside my plans for the plans of Jesus. After doing so, I no longer had to fret or worry about how my future would look. Instead, I put my trust in Jesus, and I experience true peace. By doing this, God was able to fill my heart with confidence. A confident heart is obviously not something tangible. Instead it’s feelings of peace, hope, and joy, knowing that God has it all figured out on my behalf. Ladies, talk about true freedom!
Below are affirmations that I encourage you to say to replace anxious thoughts:
"I choose to put my trust in God because His timing is perfect!
All things are working together for my good!
I will cast my cares upon the Lord because He cares for me.
I will not worry about the future because I know that God has a plan in place for me!"
Finding Security in the Plans of God
I’ve heard it said like this: “Be confident in what God tells you to do and believe it’s the right thing to do.” This was so profound to me because I wasn’t experiencing peace as I should have been. Instead, I was so focused on what others would think about the goal that I had been working towards. Often it can be very tempting to find confidence according to the people around you. This can be very dangerous in terms of being secure in who you are and what you are called to do. What happens when you are secure in who you are? You will no longer worry about the interview, the performance at your job, your calling, your appearance, or anything else of that nature.
I’m here to remind you that God has a plan for your life! Whether you believe it or not, He does. I want you to know that what God has started in you, He will finish. I encourage you to take the one thing you’ve been burdened with and give it to Him.
After all, He cares for you (See 1 Peter 5:7).
3 Keys to Having a Confident Heart:
1. In order to fully experience inner peace, you must learn to trust in God.
2. Don’t allow anxious thoughts to detour you from being at peace with yourself.
3. Confidence is not about being perfect; it’s about trusting the process through the imperfections.
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“Being confident of this very thing, that He who begin a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Jesus Christ” Philippians 1:6
Definition of People Approval: "The desire to have someone approve of who you are as a person or something that you have accomplished."
Love Who You Are
It's important to love and enjoy who are despite what others may think or believe. I've heard it said this way: "You make people accept you the way you want them to." My husband was the one to tell me this because I was hesitant about wearing my natural hair. I was so accustomed to wearing weaves, that I felt like weaves defined who I was as a person. This happened to be one of the many greatest lessons that I learned regarding accepting my appearance. Dear friends, the key to this is loving yourself first--and not relying on whether or not someone else approves you. Instead of focusing on receiving the approval of your neighbor, I encourage you to focus on accepting your differences and loving who God has created you to be. You were born beautiful, ladies.
The Bible says in 1 Peter 3:4: "You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and a quiet spirit which is so precious to God.” The most interesting thing about this scripture is that it focuses on the inner beauty. Did you know that your inner beauty is more valuable than your outer appearance? I recall solely focusing on my outward appearances. The sad part about this was that on the outside, I looked like the most confident person ever. But on the inside I was broken, hurting, and lost in the world in which I was living. You may be thinking, “So do I not take care of my outer appearance?” Of course not. You see, I was finally able to understand that there’s a healthy balance between your outward appearance and loving who you are from within. I pray that you will begin to focus more on the beauty that comes from within. God loves you just the way you are. ♡
God Approves You
By nature, we as humans desire feeling loved and accepted. But what happens when your friend, boyfriend, or neighbor isn’t giving you the approval that you want? For me, I would alter my decisions and appearance to fit into what I believed would be more acceptable. The problem with this is that if you’re always relying on the approval of someone else you can never reach your full potential. Instead you’ll make choices based on the ideas of others. Sis, I don’t believe that’s how you were meant to live your life. I want to let you know that it’s okay if you are misunderstood because of your personality, your outer appearance, or for pursuing your dreams. I’ve had to come to a place to where I am no longer waiting for others to agree with who I am as a person. Truth is, some may never understand you but it’s okay because God loves you and approves of you.
I must say that there is freedom in knowing that you’re not bound to the opinion of the person next to you. I have learned that if you want to accomplish your goals and dreams in life you cannot wait for your neighbor to stamp their approval on it. Instead, you must confidently pursue the things that have been placed on your heart despite how others may think or feel. Truth is, you were born with a purpose—and within your purpose there was a plan for you to make a major impact in this world. In the past, I recall coming up with ideas for something that I wanted to do. I hoped to see the same excitement on the person’s face that I experienced. But I quickly realized that I couldn’t wait to accomplish my dreams based off of the excitement of someone else. I had to learn to continue to pursue the dreams and ideas that were birthed in my heart regardless. If I were waiting for everyone to approve of me starting this blog and writing to you today, I would still be waiting. I encourage you to walk in freedom, let go of the opinions of others, and dream again!
“I made a choice to no longer find acceptance from people—that’s when I experienced my greatest victories.”