The Journey of Overcoming Negative Emotions
Webster’s Definition of Emotion: “A state of feeling, a conscious mental reaction (such as anger or fear) subjectively experienced as strong feeling”
My Definition of Emotion: “Moments of where you allow your feelings to dictate your decisions and state of mind.”
I am currently in the process of receiving my Bachelor’s Degree in Early Childhood Education. One of the things that I have learned with teaching young children is how to help them manage their emotions. There is a technique that I use when helping children overcome their emotions that they experience towards their peers. I often talk them through their feelings and help them to find the right resolution. I love this because it helps children learn how to effectively communicate at such a young age! (I promise I’m going somewhere with this!)
You know this past week God has really placed it on my heart to discuss emotions. And He has shown me that I didn’t learn how to really manage my emotions until I became a Christian and began living my life for Jesus. You see, in the past there were many times where I allowed my emotions to speak for me. I had no filter or control of how I would handle certain situations in life. Why? Because I simply didn’t understand how to handle my feelings and emotions. I was often either really happy or extremely sad, there was never any in between the extremes. I simply lived on the cuff of my emotions.
The Emotional Impact:
What kind of impact do you believe your emotions can have on you if you’re not careful? In the past, whenever something would upset me, I would be upset for a long time and I often needed someone to help bring me back to reality. I’m reminded of a scripture in Ephesians 4:26: “…Do not let the sun go down when you're still angry”. Quite honestly, God knows how much negative emotions can impact our sleep due to carrying the weight of undealt emotions on to the next day. So what do you do when you begin to feel your emotions arise? Personally, I take a moment to regroup and give whatever is bothering me to God. Why? Because I know how much He cares for me and wants me to enjoy my life. Sis, God cares about you too. And if you're too concerned about the situations that you experience, how can you truly enjoy your life? I believe that God gives us each the ability to exercise self control. I encourage you to take a moment to reflect on the impact of allowing negative emotions to speak for you.
The Emotional Void:
You know in the past, I was known as one who wanted to be emotionally attached to my peers or a “romantic relationship”. It wasn’t enough for me to be stable on my own; I needed the support of others. Sadly, this was disheartening and overbearing for some people. When my husband and I were dating, he didn’t realize it but he had a lot of work ahead of him. I recently asked him about my emotional stability in the past. He smiled and said: “Yes, you’ve come a long way.” Have I arrived? Oh no ma’am. Do I still experience challenges in my emotions? Of course I do. But what I do about the negative emotions that I experience is what matters the most! You see, I believe that God gives us the ability to control our emotions so that we can learn how to effectively manage them (through His help of course). Wherever you are in your life right now, I think we can all agree that there is always room for improvement.
The Right Perspective:
Have you ever been in a situation where you perceived something one way but looking back you realized you may have overreacted? *inserts raised hand* I’ve definitely been there plenty of times. However, I believe by having the right perspective can help lead to healthier emotions. Truth is, nothing in life should make you sacrifice your joy. The bible tells us that the joy of the Lord is our strength (see Nehemiah 8:10). This means that when you become angry, afraid, sad, or anything between, you give up your joy-- and essentially your strength. I’m not sure what battles you are facing right now but I can sense that your negative emotions are leading you to bitterness, anger, or sadness. Maybe you didn’t a call back for the job you applied for, or the relationship didn’t work out the way you planned. Or maybe you were like me where you allow your emotions to rule your everyday decisions. I am here to tell you that God wants to shift your perspective to what matters most. I want to remind you that you have been called to overcome any situation you face. You may not be where you want to be, but thank God that those of you who are reading this blog are headed in the right direction! My dear friends, review the three keys below of how to overcome negative emotions.
3 Keys of How to Overcome Negative Emotions: