"I wish he would love me."
"I just don't feel pretty enough."
"No matter what I do, I'm never going to be good enough."
In the past, these were my very thoughts to myself.
It was always hard for me to love myself because I was too focused on wanting others to love me. To be honest, you must love yourself before another human can truly love you. Notice I wrote "human" versus God-- because it wasn't until I received the love that God had for me that I began to really embrace the person that I was created to be.
Today, when I think about loving myself I begin to think about the characteristics that God has given me, and how important it is to accept the person that I am. The expectation of how to love yourself starts with you, my friend. What does it mean to really love the person that you are? It means to love everything about you: your smile, the way you speak, walk, talk, and so forth. I believe the greatest hindrance to loving the person we were created to be is trying to be someone we're not. When we realize that we've fallen short of the image of our neighbor we feel disappointed and unworthy. This hits home for me because that's exactly where I was at a point in my life. I thought I had to look and act a certain way before I could truly love who I was. In reality, I was disguising myself into this image that was never meant to be me. One of the greatest lessons that I have learned about loving myself was to correct my thoughts towards myself. This helped to eliminate the negative words that I would say out loud about myself.
Believe it or not, your thoughts become your beliefs, and your beliefs become the very words you speak every day. What thoughts may be causing you to doubt how you see yourself? I encourage you to look in the mirror every day and speak what God says about you! No more feeling down about who you are, what you did, and what you're "not". It's time to allow our thoughts and words to line up with God's Word. My dear friend, don't allow the lie that you have been holding on to persuade you into believing that you are not good enough.
Philippians 4:8 reads "Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about these things that are excellent and worthy of praise".
This means to focus your thoughts on the truth. Know that you are beautiful, you are not a mistake, God loves you, you were created in His image, and you have a bright future ahead of you.
By continuing to meditate on the verse above and doing exactly what it says, your thoughts can transform into a whole new perspective of how you view yourself. I can recall reading this verse and being determined to change the way that I thought. This doesn't mean that I was completely perfect in my thought life or that I have arrived 100% today. But I didn't allow the process of me changing how I thought to discourage me from thinking and speaking better about who I am. The key here is that by making a choice to think about what's right, that choice will eventually guide you into the confident woman that I know you were created to be! I encourage you to join me in the "Love Yourself Challenge".