Definition of People Approval: "The desire to have someone approve of who you are as a person or something that you have accomplished."
Love Who You Are
It's important to love and enjoy who are despite what others may think or believe. I've heard it said this way: "You make people accept you the way you want them to." My husband was the one to tell me this because I was hesitant about wearing my natural hair. I was so accustomed to wearing weaves, that I felt like weaves defined who I was as a person. This happened to be one of the many greatest lessons that I learned regarding accepting my appearance. Dear friends, the key to this is loving yourself first--and not relying on whether or not someone else approves you. Instead of focusing on receiving the approval of your neighbor, I encourage you to focus on accepting your differences and loving who God has created you to be. You were born beautiful, ladies.
The Bible says in 1 Peter 3:4: "You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and a quiet spirit which is so precious to God.” The most interesting thing about this scripture is that it focuses on the inner beauty. Did you know that your inner beauty is more valuable than your outer appearance? I recall solely focusing on my outward appearances. The sad part about this was that on the outside, I looked like the most confident person ever. But on the inside I was broken, hurting, and lost in the world in which I was living. You may be thinking, “So do I not take care of my outer appearance?” Of course not. You see, I was finally able to understand that there’s a healthy balance between your outward appearance and loving who you are from within. I pray that you will begin to focus more on the beauty that comes from within. God loves you just the way you are. ♡
God Approves You
By nature, we as humans desire feeling loved and accepted. But what happens when your friend, boyfriend, or neighbor isn’t giving you the approval that you want? For me, I would alter my decisions and appearance to fit into what I believed would be more acceptable. The problem with this is that if you’re always relying on the approval of someone else you can never reach your full potential. Instead you’ll make choices based on the ideas of others. Sis, I don’t believe that’s how you were meant to live your life. I want to let you know that it’s okay if you are misunderstood because of your personality, your outer appearance, or for pursuing your dreams. I’ve had to come to a place to where I am no longer waiting for others to agree with who I am as a person. Truth is, some may never understand you but it’s okay because God loves you and approves of you.
I must say that there is freedom in knowing that you’re not bound to the opinion of the person next to you. I have learned that if you want to accomplish your goals and dreams in life you cannot wait for your neighbor to stamp their approval on it. Instead, you must confidently pursue the things that have been placed on your heart despite how others may think or feel. Truth is, you were born with a purpose—and within your purpose there was a plan for you to make a major impact in this world. In the past, I recall coming up with ideas for something that I wanted to do. I hoped to see the same excitement on the person’s face that I experienced. But I quickly realized that I couldn’t wait to accomplish my dreams based off of the excitement of someone else. I had to learn to continue to pursue the dreams and ideas that were birthed in my heart regardless. If I were waiting for everyone to approve of me starting this blog and writing to you today, I would still be waiting. I encourage you to walk in freedom, let go of the opinions of others, and dream again!
“I made a choice to no longer find acceptance from people—that’s when I experienced my greatest victories.”