The Process of Developing Your Gifts
Prayer: “Lord, I ask that you use my experiences to minister to your people. Use my hands to type a message that will penetrate the hearts of those who read it. I move out of the way so that you can have your way. I surrender my own ideas and I ask you Lord to write through me in Jesus name. Amen.”
Every person in this world has a seed that has been placed on the inside of them by God. This seed represents your natural gifts and abilities. When God placed this seed in you, it represents the very thing He placed you in this world to do. What is your seed currently doing? Are you watering your seed? Is your seed planted in fertile soil with enough sun shining on it? I believe that God has placed this phrase: “From Seed to Sunflower” on my heart because it embodies the process of the time it takes to grow a sunflower seed into the beautiful sunflower that it was created to be. In this blog post, I want to help you identify what represents your seed, give you the tools to dig deep enough to plant it, and provide insight on the process of growing your seed.
Identifying Your Seed:
Growing up, I enjoyed planting in my yard with my sister. I enjoyed the idea of having what’s known as a “green thumb”—one who plants exceptionally well. I didn’t mind getting dirty in the yard with soil and possible worms and any other creature that I came across. However, there was a process of identifying what seed I wanted to plant to bring forth a beautiful harvest. Ladies, the moment you identify your seed, you must understand the process that it takes to blossom. You see, God has already placed a seed inside of each of you. Your seed could represent the gift of encouragement, singing, writing, or anything else that comes naturally to you. For me, God began showing me that I naturally enjoy encouraging others through writing and speaking. But there was and still is a process of growing this seed that has been placed in me. Have you identified your seed? What are some things that come naturally to you? Whatever it is, that’s the seed that God has placed in you!
Breaking old Habits:
You must know that for your seed to grow, it must break first! What do I mean by this you ask? Naturally, when planting, seeds break after being put into the soil. When it comes to us as humans-- this breaking of a sunflower seed represents the breaking of old habits such as, wrong thinking, gossiping, ungodly comparison and anything else that will slow down the growth of your seed. I want you to know that God has created you to blossom! However, before the blossoming takes place, the breaking of old habits must first take place. God reminded me of this scripture that’s found in John 15: 1-2 “I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful”. What a powerful scripture that shows us the importance of abiding in God! I also love that this scripture brings clarity in the significance of cutting away any dead weight from our lives. Sis, this fruit signifies the true blessing of God that can be given to you by abiding in God.
Removing the Blockage:
Many times when you plant, you must be aware of the weeds that will try to kill or destroy plants. Same with the concept of you blossoming into a sunflower—you must be mindful of the weeds that will try to come and attack your seed. This weed could represent temptations or wrongdoings that you encounter daily. The weeds of wrong thinking, anger, sadness, impure thoughts and idols in your heart must be uprooted before you can blossom into who God has called you to be. I recall a time when I helped my husband uproot the weeds in our garden. I understand that if we don’t uproot the weeds, our plants cannot grow and thrive as they should. So, what happens when you don’t uproot the figurative weeds in your life? I believe that without facing the weeds in your life, you are unable to become who God has called you to be. This process of weeding, helped me to understand the importance of uprooting weeds in my personal life. For me, I continuously renew my mind in God’s words to allow for old weeds to be stripped away. Ladies, I encourage you to identify any weeds in your life and ask God to remove them.
Naturally, every plant has a source that it must receive from to grow, such as sunlight, water, soil, and of course the seed itself! Ladies, God has given me this passion for writing and speaking. However, I understand that I must develop these gifts. Notice that I used present tense because this is an ongoing process. When it comes to using my gifts for the Lord, I also understand that I must focus my attention towards my source-- God. Just as a sunflower cannot blossom without the needed ingredients—I also understand that I cannot blossom without God, His anointing, His wisdom, His presence and the studying of His word. I often say to God: “Lord, I cannot write another blog post without your wisdom, your anointing, or you alone”. You see, the moment you understand where your true source comes from, is when you begin to lean on God more than ever before. John 15: 4-5 says: “Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me”. I’ve learned that it’s so important to allow God to have His way in every part of my life.
Develop Your Gifts:
Many times, we desire our gifts to be developed right away. However, it takes time to allow God to develop you so that you can blossom into the beautiful women that you were created to be! One of the ways that I develop my gifts with blogging is done through planning posts using a calendar and a social media scheduling app called “Planoly”. Using these tools, I make a list of items that need to be completed by priority. This strategy allows me to schedule posts on time while also engaging with you; my audience on social media! In addition, to planning posts, creating a schedule and engaging on social media—the most important process of developing my gifts cannot be done without God’s help. As stated previously, I understand that these gifts that God has given to me cannot be used without His wisdom, strength and peace. I believe when you show God that you are willing to dig deep and develop those gifts, He can meet you where you are and place His anointing on you—not for your glory but for His glory.
Many find it hard to believe that I once was insecure, that it was hard to love who I was as a person, that I used to solely rely on the approval and compliments of others. As stated in the previous post (letting-go-of-the-past.html) , one of the greatest challenges that I faced was accepting who I was and not letting my mistakes and the pain of my past define me. Sis, did you know that no matter what you’ve done, you are simply not a mistake? Ephesians 2:10 says: “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago”. Wow! This verse can free you from the idea of not measuring up. You see, God didn’t just create you to be a masterpiece to be placed on display. He created you to be a masterpiece to do something wonderful in this world! How powerful?!
“But you seem so perfect”
Can I be honest with you ladies? Just because I now know who I am doesn’t mean that I don’t get crazy, insecure thoughts. I just laugh at them knowing that God has called me a masterpiece! Ladies, you CAN take a stand and confess what the Word says about you. God calls you His masterpiece. Say aloud: “I am God’s masterpiece! I am beautiful!” The Bible tells us that life and death is in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21). You have the power to say what you love about yourself or you can use that same power to speak negatively about who you are. You may be facing the temptation of giving up on believing that you are someone special. I can sense that the reason you are challenged so greatly is because the power of knowing who you are causes you to fulfill your destiny and your purpose here on Earth. Dear ladies, the choice has been given to each of you. It’s your time to be bold and confess what the Word says about who you are.
Work of Art
One day, I recall painting with my husband and friends. I painted whatever came to mind, I painted hearts, flowers, shapes, and then finally I created my future family. Once I was done, I looked around and saw how well everyone else painted their canvas. Honestly, I was tempted to shrink back and think: “Well, what went wrong with my artwork? My shapes look a little deformed. I could have done better here and there.” Finally, I began to own my work of art and love my masterpiece! Why? Because I created it using my imagination. In the same way, when God created you, He loved your being! He calls you a masterpiece! God doesn’t react the same way I did at first glance of my artwork. God never says, “Oh no, I messed up on that nose, I could’ve have done this better or that better.” Instead God is proud of what He has created. Genesis 1:27 says: “So God created human beings in His own image. In the image of God, He created them; male and female” This means because you are a masterpiece, you are free from comparing yourself to someone else. Ladies, you each are beautiful in your very own way!
Be You, Be Bold, Be Beautiful
One of my favorite quotes is the one above: “Be You, Be Bold, Be Beautiful.” I believe that God wants His people to have a boldness about them. You see, to truly love who you are you must be bold. This doesn’t mean you must be prideful. This simply means that there’s a level of boldness that comes with loving yourself. By definition, boldness means, 'a person, showing the ability to take risks; confident and courageous.' When you are bold, you take risks and begin working on a vision that God has given you without knowing how it will come together. A bold woman doesn’t allow the opinions of others to persuade her from doing what God has called her to do. A bold woman is willing to push past the fear of the unknown and walk confidently into her destiny! Ladies, I’ve been told many times to be the best me that I can be. Suddenly, one day it settled with me and I finally got it! I understood that I couldn’t be a duplicate of someone else. I could only be myself. Who are you wanting to be? Is it someone that you admire and find yourself comparing yourself to? Or are you completely loving the skin that you are in? The moment that you take a step of boldness in being who you are, you experience the true beauty of oneself.
Accepting Your Own Kind of Beautiful
Women, I want to begin with letting you know that you are masterpieces! You have been chosen to make powerful moves while on Earth! You are loved by God. God has predestined His plans for your life. You were never created to feel neglected, unsure of yourself, burdened, unloved nor anything else that leaves you to feel broken. Ladies, you are your own kind of beautiful—more precious than jewels! Today, I want you to understand your worth and value. You don’t have to find the approval of man. It’s okay if you were not chosen first because God has chosen you! You are beautiful! You are stunning! You are lovable! Your past does not define you, sweetheart. It’s time to walk confidently into every room, every meeting, every store, every class and everywhere you go—Not in pride but simply in confidence. Are you ready to be a woman who loves herself dearly?
What Does It Mean to Love Who You Are?
When I think of a woman who loves herself, I can’t help but to think of her ability to love everything about herself. This includes her appearance, how she looks, her personality, her weaknesses (we will talk about this in depth), her gifts and her passions. It’s the whole package of who she is as a person. Now, I mentioned loving your weaknesses earlier, and I wanted to go more in detail about what it means to love our weaknesses. Ladies, can you think of an activity that you absolutely love everything about? Or maybe it’s something that you love two-thirds of the activity, but that one portion causes you to cringe when you think about it. Is it working out at the gym? Running? Writing? Working? Imagine the activity without any of the hassles, challenges or weaknesses. It’s the challenges that produces the victories in our lives. Same as the weaknesses that we experience in ourselves—in those weaknesses we are made strong in Jesus (See 2 Corinthians 2:12) Maybe you have a natural ability to plan and organize your daily schedule. But when it comes to creating or inventing, you feel completely confused. Or maybe you love your beauty mark on your face but you feel challenged in accepting your size and figure. Ladies, I want to encourage you to love everything about yourselves.
The Beauty of Embracing Oneself
Today, many women are often told whether or not they are beautiful. But if we don’t have someone to affirm who we are, we are left feeling broken and lonely. Ladies, I know that this is not how God intended us to experience love. I want you to know that regardless of what anyone says or doesn’t say, you are uniquely beautiful. The Bible tells us that we are more precious than rubies (Proverbs 3:15). I researched the price of rubies, and I realized that most rubies cost a fortune. You see, God wants you to understand your worth and value. It’s important to love and accept who you are because you each have something so special about you. I believe that God created women to compliment this world in a way that will inspire those around us. There is something truly special about each of you. It’s up to you to accept your unique qualities and learn to love every one of them. Why? Because God did not make any mistakes when He created you.
Walking with Confidence: “Okay Lord, I can do this!”
One day, I recall sitting in class waiting to present my PowerPoint. In all honesty, I was completely nervous to walk up and begin speaking. As I anxiously waited, I could sense God letting me know that He has called me to be confident, a bold leader, a woman who does not shrink back in fear and someone who loves herself so much that it doesn’t matter what others may think of her. I took heed to this and I decided to let go of my fears and walk up to the front of the classroom with confidence. That evening, I spoke with such confidence and assurance knowing that God was backing my presentation and my speech up with His affirmation and approval. I share this story with you, because I want you to understand that when you begin to love yourself, you must push through the fears and expectations of man. Loving who you are has nothing to do with how others think or feel about you. But it has everything to do with receiving God’s love and being able to walk in freedom and confidence, knowing who you are in Christ!
Be Your Own Kind of Beautiful:
Have you ever experienced a day where you picked out an outfit and felt completely beautiful in it? It’s like you wanted to go everywhere to show this world how beautiful you were. By the time you made it home, you eventually had to take the outfit off and put it in your laundry basket. You see, God wants you to know that beauty doesn’t have to come on and off. What I mean is that because your beauty has been given to you by God, it stays with you. You are beautiful not because of what you wear. You are beautiful because of who you are—because of who God created you to be. Ephesians 2:10 reads: “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he has planned for us long ago”. God spoke to me about this verse. Ladies, how can you fulfill your destiny without knowing that you are God’s masterpiece? There is freedom in knowing and understanding this. Now is your time to love and embrace everything about you.
Distractions: Something that prevents you from focusing on what’s most important.
Perspective Shift: A New & Improved Understanding
During this time of praying and fasting, I realized something that’s extremely important. I realized that the endless things of life-- entertainment, social media, or even food can be the ultimate distractions. I believe it’s so important to take a break from these distractions and really go deeper with the Lord. I want to provide you with seven ways God has changed my perspective as I stepped away from distractions. Ladies, let’s go deeper in our understanding as we examine where we are and where God wants to take us.
Perspective #1: You Gain a Greater Understanding
There’s something profound when you take the initiative to truly dedicate your life to the Lord. During this 21 days of fasting, I made it my priority to wake up in the early morning and spend time in God’s presence, go deeper in the Word, and worship the one, true living God. It’s not that this wasn’t a priority before --it's that I wanted to go deeper in the Lord's presence, and continue to build my relationship with God. Yes, that’s right, I’m hungry to grow in my relationship with God. And quite honestly, I’ve never been more determined to do so. You see, God began to change my perspective during this fast on what He views to be important. I believe that the Lord wanted me to see His will for my life with even more clarity. Talk about a perspective shift! When you begin to spend time with God, your perspective will begin to change. Suddenly, what you thought was most important, somehow finds its importance to the bottom of the list. Ladies, I am telling you what I know and understand to be true. Today, what are your currently focused on? Is it your status on social media? Whether you have a best friend? Bad doctor's report? Whatever it is, I encourage you to spend time with God and see how He will begin to shift your focus towards His promises.
Perspective #2: Greater Calling
You see, the Bible tells us in 1 John 2:16 “For the world offers only a craving for physical pleasure, a craving for everything we see, and pride in our possessions. These are not from the Father, but are from this world.” Quite honestly, it’s easy to fall into the temptation to chase after the world’s riches. But when you remove the distractions of life— unhealthy relationships, expensive shopping trips, other luxuries, television, social media overload, etc., I believe God will begin to show you the true importance of why He’s placed each of us in this world.
Of course, there’s balance to it all. God doesn’t intend for His people to live a life without joy. He just doesn’t want those things to be our sole reason for living, and the only things we seek after. You see, when I began to shift the focus from the number of followers on Instagram to the reason why I am writing to you today, I experienced a new level of freedom. A freedom that cannot be compared or taken away, true freedom. It’s never a bad thing to want to progress in your life, but it can become questionable when all you think about is your success and not about others. I share this with you to encourage you to ask yourself, “What have I been focusing on and putting my time, energy, and attention to? What is my motive? Is this a selfish motive? Or is this to glorify God?”
Perspective #3: Understanding of God’s Promises
Has anyone ever promised you anything? Ever heard someone say, “I promise I will never hurt you” or “I promise to always be there for you?” Did they fulfill their promises, or did you find yourself being disappointed? During this time of seeking God, I began to go deeper in searching for God's promises in His word. I have learned that man can promise many things in our lives. However, we must understand that man can not fulfill promises the way that God can. When God says in His word that healing was intended for you (see Isaiah 53:5), that means that when you receive Jesus as your Lord and Savior, you are a child of God—so sickness simply cannot reside in you! There’s literally no question about it. It’s amazing the kind of promises that God freely gives all His people. I’ve learned the importance of putting a high demand on God’s promises for my life. Ladies, you don’t have to accept the overwhelming feeling of heaviness, despair, depression or anything else that’s negatively hindering you from enjoying your life. Did you know that God promises you praise for heaviness? Joy for mourning? Isaiah 61:3 says: “To all who mourn in Israel, he will give you a crown of beauty for ashes, a joyous blessing instead of mourning, festive praise instead of despair”. I encourage you to trade your sadness for the joy of the Lord!
Perspective # 4: The Heart of a Servant
During this time of praying and fasting, God showed me the importance of having a servant's heart. What do you think it really means to have a heart of a servant? It means to be ready to attend to the needs others. And doing so with a fervent passion. I recall sitting in church and listening to the discussion about the relationship between Elisha and Elijah (2 Kings 2:2-15). I began to gain a deeper understanding of the importance relationships and serving others. God really began to tug on my heart about serving without limitations. You see, it doesn't matter what you feel you're called to do, because God has called us to serve in any capacity. One of my Pastors said a life changing statement: "It's not about the mic, it's about the mop." Many times, we shy away from opportunities that are behind the scenes because we may feel those things are beneath us or not what God has called us to do. But in reality, it's much more than the glitz and glamour. It's about praying for those who need healing. It's about spending time with someone who is mourning, or anything else that pushes you outside of your comfort zone. What would this world look like if we all began to serve others with the love of God?
Perspective #5: Understanding the Source of True Joy
I believe true joy is given to us by God. Yes, there are many sources that can make us feel happy. However, God began to show me that true joy is found in Him. Ladies, where have you been looking to experience joy? You know the Bible tells us that God intended for us to have an abundant life (John 10:10). I honestly believe that this fast helped me to understand this scripture in a new way. Ladies, true joy isn't found in our social status, or whether someone else accepts you. You see when you understand that real joy isn't based upon your accomplishments or other's approval of you, your perspective begins to shift. Personally, I experienced a new level of joy and freedom while fasting and praying. I had an "Aha Moment" where I didn't look to the vanilla bean ice cream for satisfaction. But I looked to God's word and saw that the "Joy of the Lord is my strength!"
Perspective #6: Mountain Moving Faith
When I hear the term "mountain moving faith", I see someone standing before a huge mountain with the faith to move it. The Bible says in Matthew 17:20 "I tell you the truth, if you had faith even as small as a mustard seed, you could say to this mountain, 'Move here to there', and it would move. Nothing would be impossible." Wow! Isn't it amazing the impact that our faith can have? Maybe you're believing for a promotion, a joyful life, good health, or a healthy relationship; I encourage you to have faith to believe that the mountain of debt, the depression, the bad doctor's report, the unhealthy communication in marriage can be moved according to your faith! I can sense that some of you have accepted the circumstances of life in a sense that you no longer believe for the best any longer. I encourage you to take a stand and allow God to increase your faith to believe for the impossible. Just by seeking God on a deeper level, it has encouraged me to believe for God to do the impossible in any situation that comes my way! What would happen if you began to believe again?
Perspective #7: Being Confident in God & Trusting His Timing
My routine for preparing for a blog post consists of praying, worshiping, and asking God to show me what He wants me to write about. So I did just that for this blog post, but I waited some time before I actually began to write. Truth is, God had given me the topic for this post but I wasn't confident in what I believed He wanted me to write about. I share this with you to give you a glimpse of my experiences in my everyday life. I believe that God wants you to take a step towards the very thing that He's placed on your heart. It doesn't matter if you don't have all of the answers, what matters is that you take a step. You will see that He will give you more of what you need on your way than what you started with. Why don't you work on that business that God placed on your heart? Or send in your resume for the position that you keep thinking about? What is stopping you from doing so? Many times, it can be that we're simply not confident enough to believe in what God has called us to do. Ladies, I want to push you to be the greatest you that you can be! The only way to do that is for you to begin walking in the direction of where God is calling you.
p.s. Please feel free to leave a comment and share the perspective that resonated with you the most. I always love to hear your thoughts!
12/13/14: When the Chapman Legacy Began
Matthew 6:33 says, “Seek first the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and He will give you everything you need”. Before I met my husband, I strongly desired to be loved and accepted, to be in a committed relationship, and to one day be married. I believe the greatest moment of my life took place when I decided to let go of my own desires, ambitions, and traded them for the life that God intended for me to have. And thank God I did.
Many have asked me about the story of how I met my husband. Truth is, I met him when I focused on searching after God. What I mean by this is that I didn’t go searching for my husband. In fact, God brought him to me. On December 13, 2014 was the day that I said “I do” to the man that God strategically placed in my life. This year, my husband and I will be celebrating 3 years of marriage! God has placed it on my heart to share some insight with you of what I have learned in these 3 years of being married.
Communication: A Moment of Truth
Ladies, can I be honest with you? I didn’t realize how much I needed to improve my communication skills until I got married. I also learned how to seriously manage those negative emotions that can get you into big trouble if you’re not careful. This means, not saying or doing things that you would soon regret. You see, the Lord really worked on me with channeling my emotions. I believe that any successful relationship begins with a solid foundation of communication. If you think about it, how can you enjoy a friendship or relationship if you are always at war with one another? This is so profound when it comes to a healthy marriage. I can recall times, where I’ve had to admit that I was wrong about something. Talk about swallowing my pride and being willing to own whatever decision that I had made.
You know the word “expectations” comes to mind when I think about healthy communication. Being married has helped me to understand the importance of setting realistic expectations with my husband and communicating these expectations to him. It seems very simple, right? But when the business of life takes place, you can easily overlook the importance of telling your spouse the very things that are important to you. One of things that keeps our union healthy is having a family meeting every week to discuss upcoming events, budgets, spiritual growth, and more!
Trust: Knowing How to Trust the God in My Husband
Have you ever been in a relationship where all you could think about was whether your significant other was truly trustworthy? I sure have. Ladies, I have found that when we allow God to be the center of our marriage, we put our complete trust in God. Now does this mean that I don’t trust my husband? Of course not. What this means is that I not only trust my husband, but more importantly I trust the God in him. You see, our relationship with God came before our marriage. I believe that there’s a level of maturity that is developed when you understand that you both must answer to God for whatever action is taken.
In addition, we’ve learned the importance of having boundaries in our marriage. As a married couple, it’s important to protect our covenant in every way possible. I can’t help but to think of the scripture: “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it ” (Proverbs 4:23). I believe keeping our heart guarded through what we watch, listen to, and who we spend time with, will have a direct impact on our marriage. To the married ladies, there are some things you just can’t entertain in order to protect your marriage. To the single ladies who desires to be married one day, I encourage you to begin guarding your heart now and setting up the necessary boundaries in your life.
Support: Where you go, I go
In the Bible, there’s a story of two women who were journeying through life together and had lost their loved ones (Ruth 1:16). Ruth had this determination that she would not return home after such a tragedy. Instead, she chose to stay by Naomi’s side and go wherever she went. God spoke to me through this scripture, reminding me of the commitment that I have to my husband. I recall, when my husband and I were dating, I said this scripture aloud to him. I believe it was a foresight of what kind of commitment our marriage would be. In addition to being committed, I have also learned how to support my husband’s dreams and goals. As well as the importance of speaking positive affirmations over him, encouraging him, and being there to listen. I have learned that this kind of support is especially needed for a healthy marriage. In the same way, he also encourages me to reach my greatest potential and pursue my dreams. My husband is one of the biggest reasons why I am writing you today!
You know I have found that God wants us to love beyond limits or conditions. Often, we think of love is based upon conditions— 'If you do this, then I will love you. As long as you continue to take me out for dinner, I will keep loving you.' The problem with this kind of love is that it’s contingent upon an action beforehand. God is always reminding me to love without conditions. This means loving my husband whether he cooks or doesn’t cook, loses weight or gains weight--no matter what, always loving him. I have found that love can be beautiful if demonstrated the right way. Ladies, my hope is that through my experiences and insight, you have been encouraged in some way. I share these things with you to help you to understand that for one, God knows your desires of being married one day. If you continue to seek Him first, He will provide you with your hearts' desires. But remember it all starts with seeking Him. And ladies, if you are already married, I hope that you’ve been encouraged to shift your focus to what will help build your marriage even more!
“For this reason, a man shall leave his father and his mother. And shall be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh”. Genesis 2:24
I will give thanks to you, Lord, with all my heart;
I will tell of all your wonderful deeds.
I will be glad and rejoice in you;
I will sing of the praises of your name, O Most High.
I can honestly say that this is my absolute favorite time of year. During this season, I enjoy reflecting on my life and what God has done in me so far. As I take a moment to reflect on this season of my life, I’m reminded of God’s goodness. Honestly, I don’t live a perfect life and not everything goes the way that I want it. I just believe there’s freedom in knowing how to give thanks to God for what He has done in our lives. 1 Thessalonians 5:18 says: “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus”. I love this verse because it shifts my focus to a positive perspective. Can I be honest with you? At times, it can be difficult to be thankful in all circumstances. However, I have found the moment I shift my focus and I give thanks even when I don’t have the shopping budget that I want, more time spent at home, or the dream job—I begin to understand that God has me right where He wants me. It’s easy to complain about what isn’t but it takes great courage to really open your eyes and see the blessings all around you.
Thankful for God’s Grace
There are so many things that I am thankful for this year. One of them is having the ability to maintain multiple tasks and still be given the opportunity to receive my Bachelors’ Degree in December! Transparent Moment Alert: The past 6 to 8 months I have been working hard to complete my degree. It consisted of waking up at 5:30 am, and then arriving at my internship at 7:00 am, and then to work at 10:30 am. Only to come home at about 6:30 pm. You’re probably thinking…. why did you do that?! Well, it was because I had a vision in mind of finishing school while also working full time, and blogging! Was it extremely hard? Yes! Did I almost give up nearly every other day? Yes! But what do you think kept me going? The very grace of God.
The definition of grace is: unmerited favor, undeserved, but given because of God’s love. It also means God’s ability to wipe us clean from our wrong doings. In this season, I experienced a different kind of grace. I personally experienced His power to allow to me complete all that He wanted me to complete. I share this with you to encourage you to keep going even when it gets tough! Ladies, know that God is there to help you accomplish any goal that you desire to accomplish. He wants to be a part of it!
Thankful for a Support System
I believe your greatest accomplishments are birthed with the help of a good support system. Personally, this year I have been blessed with the support of my husband while pursuing my dream of this blog, work, and the new launch of Confidence Found in Christ. I say with such thankfulness in my heart that I will be graduating next month with my Bachelors’ Degree. And I couldn’t have done that without the grace of God and the support from my husband. You know I have learned that God has a way of showing His love through the people He places in your life. To the women who desires to be married one day, I want to encourage you to wait on God’s timing. I say this because you will need a good support system in place for the plans and dreams God has set out for you! Many times, as women we may want to accomplish dreams or goals by ourselves. I have found it to be true that two is in fact better than one (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12) The moments where I became weak and wanted to give up after 10-12-hour day, my husband was there to encourage me and help bring my dream back to life. I think it’s always important to be thankful for those that God places in your corner. Who is currently in your life that has been a support system in this season?
Thankful for Friendships
One of the things that I am thankful for is the friendships that God has placed in my life. In the past, I went through a season of learning how to let go of toxic relationships and friendships. I didn’t understand the reason behind it at the time. Today, I can see the importance of being obedient of letting the wrong relationships go. To let go of something, you must have faith that the outcome is going to work out for your good. I have learned that by trusting God with my desire to have good friendships, God has blessed me with friendships that will last a lifetime. However, my definition of a friendship has seemingly changed. I say this because I personally thought friendships was a give and take type of relationship. I thought it solely meant going out for a shopping trip or for lunch every week. I realized that friendships have more meaning than that. In fact, I learned that a good friendship is one that supports God’s purpose and calling on your life. One who prays for you even when you don’t know it. A friend that you may not see every day but when you do get together you are encouraging and lifting one another up with your words. For them and you, I am forever thankful.
Time to Reflect
Ladies, what is the one thing that you survived this year so far that you didn’t think you would be able to overcome? Maybe it was a job loss, a relationship that didn’t work out, or a friendship that had turmoil. Whatever situations you faced this year, I want to let you know that one day you will be able to encourage someone through your story. If you continue to not give up, allow God to help you along the way, you can and will make a difference. We all have many blessings in our lives that can easily be overlooked. I want you to take the time to reflect on what it is that you are truly grateful for.
p.s. I’m also thankful for this dream that God has given me to reach YOU! Confidence Found in Christ has been one of the greatest opportunities that I’ve been a part of. Dear friends, if I may be honest with you, it has been one of the busiest seasons of my life. But also, one of the greatest seasons of my life! I’d love to know, what are you currently most thankful for?